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Views 1, Downlo File size KB. One second I was sound asleep; the next, I w. Novice Dominants often jump at the chance to prove their prowess without thinking about the time commitment and the entire scenario. This often le to a mismatch in personalities and expectations. These undetected mismatches lead to training disasters, hurt feelings and tarnished reputations.
In training situations, the Dominant holds the primary responsibility. Part of taking responsibility as a principle trainer is knowing what your personal expectations are. What, exactly, do you want to get out of the situation? Then clearly communicating these expectations to the submissive.
Present these expectations in early discussions and negotiations. It should be restated in the form of a written training contract. So, ask yourself two questions: 1 Am I willing to train for training sake? Know what your expectations are before entering into a training contract. The Assessment Phase determines: 1 If You want to train a particular sub 2 The answers gathered dictate the overall direction and structure of the training program.
Some subs are hesitant to share this information. If they are attracted to You, they may not want to jeopardize the chance to get to know You better. Some honestly won't know what to expect from a training session. The following is a technique presented in Miss Abernathy's books. Make sure these asments have a clear completion deadline. Following directions is a critical part of any training and the written asment exercises reveal their willingness to comply. If they fail consistently, do not go forward with the training. This requirement will save You hours of wasted time and energy.
Assessing Openness: Immediately place the trainee under a full disclosure policy. Under this rule You test the ability of the submissive to be open and honest. It is also an information gathering tool for structuring training and play. Use this carefully. At this juncture You are getting an idea of fears, limits and determining strengths. It is equally important to know both spoken limitations and physiological limitations. This may come out in intimate discussions. Risks Assessing Health Risk: Never embark on a training program of this type without assessing health risks to You or Your trainee.
Sit down and have a heart to heart talk about health issues. Assessing Work Risk: If a submissive is employed, be sure to look at the impact such a training program will have on the trainee's work environment. Is there a danger that being "outed" would jeopardize their livelihood? Assessing Outside Professional's Influences: Is the sub working with a spiritual counselor, therapist or psychologist?
Assessing Limits and Range: It's important to get an idea of the range and limits of Your play partner. Training Contracts: By the time You have finished this type of assessment You have an idea if You want to work with this trainee. Now is the time to consider the depth and time frame that You will spend with someone. The Training Program: Here, we begin use the information gathered from the assessment phase. Divide the programming into two : 1 Basic Training 2 Advanced Training Basic Training is meant to lay a foundation of expectations, protocol and rituals to focus the submissive on the Dominant's needs and style of SM.
Forms of Address: 1 How to address and communicate with You 2 Forms of addressing others 3 silent communication Forms of Service: 1 How are You to be served under different conditions 2 High protocol, moderate protocol, scene etiquette or relaxed service 3 Answer - When, where, how Forms of Posture How to handle Yourself within a situation 2 Levels of Service: This is dictated by what it is You want from a situation.
Is housekeeping an issue? Sexual service? Do You micromanage?
Any answer is appropriate. Mindfulness - No matter what the level of service, it should be done with mindfulness toward the Dominant. Create a time limit for chores and asments to be completed. Start off with a rigid schedule.
Train how You expect services to be performed. If You haven't trained properly, then it is Your fault if something isn't done to Your satisfaction. Give clear instructions about all areas of training 3 Playfulness: Our lifestyle is about naughty fun and decadent behavior.
Be serious when its time to be serious and have fun when its time to have fun. Have sexual fun Create fantasies and explore the limits that have been set Initiate new play slowly and keep a sense of humor. What would your life be like? Choose the answer that most closely fits your dream. I am suddenly awakened by Mistress's bell. Mistress's foot. It's time to get dressed. I am dressed in If it's a busy day.
I spend the morning Time for lunch! I eat The best thing about being a slave is My my my my my strong point is The hardest part of being a slave is After dinner Master re the paper while I polish his shoes. I do the dishes.
Time for bed. I must I've got to look my best. I dream about Miss Abernathy's Scoring System: - The questionnaires' answers point to tendencies. If you chose mostly a answers, you may be a good body servant lady's maid or valet. You value intimacy with the dominant above all else. You are aware of the importance of your physical appearance, and you like to help others look their best. If you chose mostly b answers, you are probably most interested I in being a sex slave.
You are a highly sexual person with considerable g stamina, and you pride yourself on your sexual technique. While most slaves enjoy some sexual attention, the erotic side of slavehood is your what you enjoy. You are very organized and have considerable management skills. You are comfortable dealing with visitors but are you're just as happy behind the scenes. If you chose mostly d answers, you want to be an escort.
You have an attractive personality and excellent communication skills. You enjoy meeting new people and serving in public. You don't mind if some people think you're the Dominant's lover; the two of you know the truth about your relationship. Besides, you're very discreet. Now, of course there will be a mix of answers.
Secondary scores are also important. Three Minute Quiz: This exercise is used to reveal initial impressions and limitations. It does not mean that these stay that way or that they are intended to be serious blocks for You.Submissive looking for mistress to serve
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